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Heartless Words

Ecclesiastes 7:21-22 (NKJV)
Also do not take to heart everything people say,
Lest you hear your servant cursing you.
For many times, also, your own heart has known
That even you have cursed others.

One of the challenging things about pastoring is dealing with the things that get said about you. For the most part people are affirming and thankful for the ministry that they receive. But there's a whole other group who feel free to express their disappointment in and frustration with you, but never to you. They think you should be doing this or that, or you should change something. They'll talk ungraciously about your shortcomings and failures without considering how their words injure and wound. This kind of thing comes with the territory. What I'm ashamed to admit is how many times I've done that to others.

Yesterday I was reading the blog of a young pastor who's getting a lot of heat because of how quickly his church is growing. He wrote an interesting entry, about what we tend to do to each other as pastors. Now serving again as an associate, I've got to be very careful about what I say. I don't want my own need for validation to cause me to counterfeit affirmation by degrading someone else. Neither do I want to participate in conversations where others are doing this to someone. It's harder to do than you think.

Lord, help me to guard my heart from the thoughtless words spoken about me by others. Help me to guard my mouth from doing it to others.

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